In my last post, I told you a little bit about how a well-known spiritual medium came to my home for a group reading about a month and a half after my husband died from a heart attack. There’s more to that story. So. Much. More.
I know many people are skeptics or otherwise opposed to mediums, but this experience was truly life-altering and awe-inspiring for me.
Before the group reading, there were two things that I asked my deceased husband Jimmy to have the medium mention during the reading to validate that it was actually his spirit communicating with us through her. In other words, I spoke out loud to the air, to the universe, to my dead husband, and I said, if this lady is for real, have her tell me these two things. As I’ll explain, the medium communicated BOTH of those things to me, and even communicated two other things to me that I didn’t have on my list.
The things on my list were signs that I believed our daughter Ruby and I had received from Jimmy since his passing, and I was asking for validation that those things were actually signs, rather than figments of my imagination. (Because it’s very easy to believe you’re losing your mind in the immediate aftermath of a trauma such as this one.) The first sign was when Ruby said out loud to me on at least three different occasions that she was seeing butterflies when we were inside rooms with no butterflies that I could see. Each time, we were on a road trip – trips he should have been taking with us and would have been driving if he hadn’t died. My daughter seeing those butterflies seemed to me that it was my husband’s way of letting me know that he was still with us and watching over us on those trips. He was a NYPD detective, so I can’t really imagine a better guardian angel.
The second thing on my list for the medium involved a dream that I had (although it felt more real than a dream, so I’d call it a visitation) during which I felt the sensation of Jimmy giving me a big hug. Let me say that again, I felt HIM giving me a hug. It wasn’t a hug from my mother or a friend; it was distinctively his hug.
The medium began the group reading by looking at me and asking how I connect with butterflies. Mic drop. I mean, really? How did she know? She said Jimmy’s soul was getting Ruby to recognize the butterflies. The butterfly symbolizes new life, and his soul does have a new life in heaven.
Next, she said, without prompting, that he was acknowledging that I had a dream that he came to me to let me know that he was okay. Both things. He communicated both things through the medium.
Another experience that happened to me after Jimmy’s passing, one which I literally did not mention to a single person, was when I felt him touch my shoulder while I was sitting on the couch after he died. When it happened, I dismissed it, thinking it must have been a spider or a bug crawling on me, and I didn’t say anything about it to anyone. The medium communicated that Jimmy acknowledged that I felt him tap me on the shoulder – and he said to her, “Ha! See, my wife didn’t even have that one on her list!” The medium said his soul has not left me, and I will feel him forever.
After validating that Jimmy’s spirit was actually with us by telling all of us things that only he could know, the medium said Jimmy is still with us, his soul is at peace, the things going on around us are real, and there truly is more to life than what’s going on in the physical world. Every breath that we take and every milestone we achieve, Jimmy is here with us in spirit. For instance, she said that Jimmy would be there in spirit for his son’s high school graduation, and that he is proud of the young man that his son is growing up to be. He doesn’t want any of his kids to change their goals and dreams just because he has died.
The medium said she could feel something tragic happened to the four of us. She said we would receive messages during the reading that would help us release our burdens, messages that we needed to hear.
Twice, the medium said Jimmy wanted to thank me. He thanked me for giving all of us a new life together as a family when he met me, he thanked me for keeping the family together, he thanked me for doing all of the things that I do for his children which I don’t need to do, he thanked me for accepting his children like they are my own children, and he thanked me for respecting their mother. He wants to support me in all of my choices and decisions.
Jimmy also said that he knows the hardest thing that I had to do was figure out what to say to Ruby about his passing and that I’m doing the right thing with Ruby for right now – and, one day, she will be ready to better understand what happened.
She said Jimmy passed unexpectedly, and he wants us to know he’s sorry that we feel we didn’t get to say goodbye.
She also said that, when we made the decision to bury Jimmy in a suit instead of his police uniform, Jimmy supported that decision, which is something that I worried about very much in the days after his passing.
The medium also asked if we buried him in “crazy boxer shorts” because she said that he was holding up a pair of boxer shorts and excitedly showing them to her. There’s no way she could have known that we buried Jimmy in his favorite pair of boxer shorts which were soft blue flannel with pictures of Corona beer bottles all over them!
She said Jimmy wants us to remember him as the happiest guy, the life of the party. He’s so happy, always smiling.
She said the purpose of receiving these messages was so that we would know that the bond between us and our loved one can never be broken. The only thing that was broken the day he died was that physical connection.
She said that Jimmy hears me say to him that one day we shall meet again, which is something that I’ve recently allowed myself to fully believe to give myself comfort.
You can believe it or not. But this experience gave me no choice but to believe. 😈